Maintance in the Morning

  Recently I have been feeling a little out of sorts. I feel very strongly that it would help
if we started a regular schedule of maintance spankings in the mornings. This has helped tremendously in the past. I will admit that sometimes I just have a better day if I have went OTK. I have to say that this is for the part of me that can not stop sticking out my bottom lip or taking a in a sharp deep huffy breath (yes I do that). I think that this is going to be highly effective and can not wait for it to start. I have asked that we use the same intensity as punishment just not the severity and length. I want be taken above my comfort zone and reminded that I am lucky to have DD. I know when my husband is upset with me and I definitely know when hes not.

Yes Sir!

In the beginning of our DD relationsip it was decided by my husband that the proper use of name calling LOL would be required of me,  I know that to some this probably seemed the most natural thing in the world. This was not so in my world. I still feel a little funny about it. When I am in trouble so to speak, addressing him as sir does come easier. I have given it great thought as to why it is difficult for me. the only thing I have came up with is I feel more like a little girl and that scares me I do not like to feel vulnerable I am however learning that it does deepen my submission. I hope to have it all figured soon and while I am at it I hope to also figure out why water is wet and the sky is up. I hope that everyone is enjoying their weekrnds and holidays. Oh and a little note to all I have a new computer and new mouse in which I am getting used to hence the typo's

This is also how I feel about The Paddle.

Do You Like Your Spouse

My Husband has been working at his new job now for about 5 months.
He is becoming aquainted with his fellow employees and they are all men.
There is one woman where he works and I think that it is probably due to the job requirements.
He spends alot of time at work and men evidently do talk. My husband and I are defnitely not
spokespeople for CDD or advocates either. We are believers. Its that smple we are skeptical and
can say for sure not when it comes to DD. This last week me and him were casualy talking about our relationship when he told me that he was surprised at the number of guys he has talked to al week that do not get along with their wives. It really is sad we didnt think that was a choice. It seems natural to like your spouse. I think back to a time when we were not getting along and realize that I wold love ro tell these guys
about our experience with DD and maybe see if it would help them. I however am not positive that
it could help. My husband has made a few friends and did say that they do like their wives and have been married for 20 plus years. These are the guys that he has shared our secret with. And whom he converses with while away feom home. I can not wait until the day when I say  "We have been married 40 years". So for right now I settle on "He is my best friend" Not to bad I think to have to settle for that. I truly am blessed.

Total Trust

I knew I trusted my DH but like most wives I was not sure how much. I know now that it is complte.
Over the last three weeks we have been living in highly stressed enviroment and I do not mean the everyday normal stress families have. Our son was injured while away for summer vacation and was recovering in another state. This of course has called complete upheaval at home and a change in every area. (I am happy to report he is home and well). We went to that other state got our son and got out of there. So as I was saying after arriving home I had a serious attitude and it needed some adjusting.I do not remember what that final comment was that I made to my DH but I do remember what happened next. I was stripped bent over the bed and told that he was going to tie me to the bed to do it. Of course I was nervous but not really worrying. However instead of rope he grabbed the role of duct tape and secured me into the perfect spanking position with my butt or I should say target awaiting. And did I mention the only implements used were ones that I would not wish on my worst enemy.I received alot of swats to the point that keeping track was useless  There were a few times that it got so intense I was sure that he was never going to stop. Of course he did but not before he got his point across. I can honestly say that being dominated that way was a wake up call. My DH was so upset at my behavior that he had to Duct tape me to the bed for the full effect. During the spanking. I realized that my DH was doing the best thing for us and that I knew that although he was.going to hurt my sit spot alot he was not going to hurt me. I was on the other hand hurting everyone around me including myself and losing a grip on the total situation. It is times like that I am so happy I have him to take care of me.Those of you that know what I have understand my needs and desires. I am so glad I have this place to share this part of my life. I could not imagine trying to explain this to most of my friends or family I would never get them to understand that I need discipline and I am so happy and fulfilled.                                                                                                                                                                       

I asked For It

For some reason when I get a spanking if I do not cry or come to the point where I say OMG ok stop pleeaasse oww owww owwwww. I need more. My DH has come to realize this and is happy to help. I received a spanking the other night lets see Saturday night that I really left a lasting impression. I woke up Sunday morning and felt that I had been well spanked. I do not know what it is about this life that makes me want to tell everyone I know, maybe it is because so many people I come in contact with complain about the lack of intimacy in their marriage. It could also be the fact that spanking is a great deterrent to divorce. In the beginning I used to care about things like Why do I want to be spanked and am I a freak. The Only thing I think about now really is am I gonna be able to handle laying still submitting. So far I have had a few session that I consider over the top and I would not change them. I am using DD as a behavior management program. And I am Happy to report that it really is working.

What Would You Say

I recently had a friend who shared with me her desires to turn her marriage around.
She wants to make it like it used to be. I told her about DD and what it did and still
does for me and my marriage. I believe in this lifestyle having the ability to help maintain
the proper balance and I am telling her how to start DD. I have so many positive side effects
that it is hard to not make DD sound like it is too good to be true. I was wondering
what would be the most important things you would include when helping a friend
initiate DD. Her marriage is not bad she just has some control issues she needs to address
and I think that would strengthen her marriage alot.

Bargain Hunting

I have found some internet sites that I would like to share.
This really can come in handy when your HOH gives you a limit and from past experience
you have learned that you better not go over that limit.
First check here for money that may be owed to you.
Missing Money- if a business owes you money and can not locate you
the money goes to the stated unclaimed asset fund after a certain amount of time
The website is the best way to find out if you have unclaimed assets. It is The National
Association of Unclaimed Property Administrators which I personally never knew existed
Their website is www.unclaimed.org
Next there is the Nationwide Online Police Auction site.
Their address is www.propertyroom.com Here you can shop for bargains that are available
when property is seized by the police.
There is also the site for the U.S. Marshalls office which is www.bid4assets.com click on
U.S. Marshalls.
The U.S. Airlines unclaimed baggage site is another cool place to look for some bargains
that address is www.unclaimedbaggage.com click on lets shop.
And do not forget the U.S. Postal service also hold auctions  every year at their Mail Recovery
Centers in Atlanta, Georgia, and St. Paul Minnesota. I do not have their address yet. I will look.
If you are looking for a home you may want to check out Freddie Mac which is officially
The Federal Home Loan Mortgage Corporation. Their website is www.homesteps.com where
you can browse their foreclosed homes listings. The Federal Government also has a
site where they sell seized and surplus property it is www.propertydisposal.gsa.gov/property 
I have always wondered if you can really find good deals like a house for a thousand dollars  LOL!

Am I Asking For To Much

Since starting DD I have noticed that I want more.
When I say this I mean that I am wanting to take our exchange of power
up another level. I do not know why I feel this way. It could be all of the positive
effects that it has on me and that it makes me feel so secure and content.
I have never been as sure of anything in my life. Yesterday I texted my DH saying that I wanted him to
be more dominate with me. It is like a door opened a crack and I am peeking out, when I want throw it open and walk through. I want more rules and I want him to be strict. For me DD changes the way I view things, my thought process is different than it used to be and I love it. I would never want to go back to a vanilla relationship. On that same note I told my DH that I wanted more. I eventually want him to tell me how to dress, wear my hair,  I want him to exercise his authority often simply because he can. I want him to be confident knowing that in my eyes there will never be anyone who could ever replace him  He holds my heart in his hands for eternity.                                      

Gotta Love Technology

I know I love it. There is so much you can do to keep in touch. My husband works 2 hours away and that makes for a really long day. Commuting and a 10 hour shift. We now both have phones and can text each other
those really pointless messages. It is great. If I want to say something to him it is like he is right here. Not to mention pictures too. I can not believe I went this long without one. I really do feel more in touch with him. And there are some other really cool features on there. Like a GPS locator for each other and navigation. To bad it doesn't tell you which isle he is on in walmart. I think that relating to DD this is also a great communication tool. I still get a little shy about saying some things to him face to face now I can just work up enough nerve to hit send. I used to write him letters and then disappear while he read them. No more of that.

Oral Sex And Submission

I have to say that satisfying my husband orally does wonders in making me feel submissive.
I thoroughly enjoy it. I am powerless when it comes to controlling his thrusts and when he
grabs the back of my head I am aware that I am his to use as he wants and it is his pleasure
I am to seek. One of my needs in our marriage is to be possesed. I need to feel owned,
I am his property and I have given him full consent to use me for his needs. Some wives are
made to perform oral sex as part of their punishment. That is where it can get tricky. Since I enjoy
servicing him orally then pairing this with a spanking it would be pleasurable for me and defeat the
purpose. I would then be more likely to repeat the behavior and not learn from it. Now pairing this
with a good girl spanking and watch out! Hopefully my husband stumbles across this post and
agrees with me.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    

Evaluating Your DD Plan

LOL sounds complicated. In simpler terms its in with the new out with the old. Unless you decide to keep it the way it is now. Since communication is vital in DD, you probably keep a journal of some sort and your HoH/Husband/Master, reads it, then he will probably know what areas you are struggling with and what you have learned. I have been having a hard with everything this week. I am finding it very hard to stay in a submissive mind frame. This in turn is making me crazy because I find I am at my happiest when I am submissive. It is like a very powerful drug to me. When I am constantly aware of my submission and acting so, I am in Domestic Bliss. I love to walk around smiling because I have this wonderful secret, my husband takes me in his hands and strives to help me in the areas we have targeted. I have given him my full consent to make the decision to punish me when I need it. I know that he struggles with this since he was raised to believe that you never hit a girl. Most men I know were taught that while growing up. That can make a husband hesitant to discipline his wife. However, when you finally get over that hurdle, your faced with the fact that the punishment is meant to hurt and your wife is probably going to protest loudly, at some point and then there are bruises,welts,and tears he has to get used to. I can honestly say that when we started it looked like my sit spot had been ran through some kind of torture device. LOL he was really bothered by this and it was not really significant to me at all. For me I do not feel properly punished unless I am taken past my limit and I cry. I do not cry easily so it is a very humbling experience. I need that outlet. But usually when I start to cry he stops and I do feel a little let down.  It is alot more effective to if it I can feel it when I sit for two or three days after it happens. We are learning still. But so far it has brought nothing but positive changes to our life. In fact I would like to converse with him about adding more rules and changing some around. I have learned that I like ALOT of structure. And I never have a dull day. I think the only punishment that we do not use is mouthsoaping. Even though if he chose to use it then he would not get any objection from me. That is because I trust him and I know it for my own good. So hopefully tonight when he gets home he will have a little energy left to evaluate our plan.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      

Wire Whip

I had the unfortunate opportunity to meet this implement again last night.
Since it was Friday our kids decided they wanted to stay with their grandparents.
This includes our youngest one who never wants to stay over. When it was time to
go she kissed us and said see you tomorrow. We arrived home alone and I had every
intention of asking for a spanking to improve my mood. I was still a bit uptight and
wanted to release some nervous tension. Well I never got a chance to asking but....
I did get spanked. My mouth has been the source of my displeasure alot lately.
Anyways, I was told to get up come around to his side of the bed and take off my clothes.
I was then told to kneel. Which I did. I was thinking that since he had stated earlier he was
really tired there was no point in even asking for a spanking. Well after about 10 minutes on
my knees he told me that I was going to be spanked and it was going to hurt, because
I needed to learn the lesson he was trying to teach. (I need to listen and not talk over him)
and I need to learn when he says to stop talking I need to stop. That is a hard one
I love to have the last word. I am working on self control but this is a sore subject. I just can not
seem to get it. Well he got out four implements and at this point I was getting nervous.
When he came to that whip he asked what do you call this thing. (it is a homemade loopy john).
Well I said a loopy john thingy. He said I call it a wire whip. I was in total agreement. All I care
about at this point is the fact that this is the worst implement that we have. It is also the most effective.
If I thought that I liked to be spanked I think I should go on to say this definitely makes me want to be
good. And isn't that the goal. Well he did warm me up and for that I am thankful.
He used the wooden spoon, hair brush, wire whip and this other black leather strap
with finger or fringe on the end. The warm up was done by hand and then came the implements with
special attention to that whip. He took his time with me and explained why it was happening.He also stopped to ask me if I was in agreement with him. I was. I barely made it through the warm up and was trying to be still. He finished with his hand which hurts just as much as the implements. At that point I was crying
and wiggling and trying to stay in position, so when I got out of position he paid special attention to my thighs.
I have asked that since I like to be spanked, he makes sure that they are past my limits. I want to learn from
this and if they are not bad and he is not strict I will end up liking them. I do not want to end up misbehaving
so I get spanked. I much prefer good girl spankings intense but with pleasure mixed in. Punishment ones must be just that. They are supposed to make me not want to repeat the behavior. And last night it hurt. I was sorry and stated so. Then I started crying because I know he hates to hurt me. And why could I not just get it.
And I woke up this morning and remembered that I had not thanked him. So needless to say I am getting ready to make him biscuits and gravy and serve him his coffee. I am going to try really hard to not make the same mistakes I made yesterday . Maybe then I will get the spanking I like. Have a good day everyone!!

Happy 4th

We have decided that we are going to stay home this year
and have our own fireworks show in our own yard.
Grandma and grandpa from both sides are coming over. I love
the 4th. I do not however, love the fact that there are people
out there that think those couple of beers they had earlier do
not count because they also had a meal or a cup of coffee. I
think everyone knows what I am talking about. Drinking and driving.
It is never OK. And if you have a license to drink then you
should be mature and responsable enough not to get behind the wheel.
Having said that I wish everyone a Fun and Safe weekend.
And do not forget to thank our military men and women.
I have to share this story because it really bothered me when it happened.
I was standing in line at a gas station in Vacaville, CA  when
a service member from Travis AFB walked in.
She got in line to pay and out steps another women who
loudly claimed that she was next in line "Sorry".  (The service woman mind you
was in full dress did I mention that, duh, that's how I knew who she was.)
anyways, after big mouth pays, respected one pulls out her wallet and realizes that
she can't find her atm card. well the cashier told her to bring the payment back in later
(I think she was a regular) which of course big mouth heard and proceeded to cause a scene.
Stating that she was sick and tired of "people in the service" getting special treatment.
And she probably knows exactly where it is. AND she is worse than a panhandler at least they
really don't have any money. And then started the line about how its the taxpayers money
paying her salary and she won't even pay for her gas.
WOW I can tell you I had not developed my submissive qualities yet (smile)
and after I thanked the service woman for just being who she was,
I turned to big mouth and told her I am so glad I do not have to know you.
And that I hopefully will never have the opportunity to see you again

Todays thoughts

I love the fact that I am a disciplined wife. I do however have to be cautious of the neighbors finding out.
I recently had a friend over and the subject of submission came up. Why has it became such a shameful word.
I am not ashamed by the fact that I chose to live my life this way. I think that those of us who chose to let our husbands lead know somethings that others don't. She asked if I was happy and I responded by telling her that sometimes I am so happy and content I want to share it with the world. She also made a valid point about the dangers a submissive woman faces. She was also curious about a woman being forced into submission by an abusive husband. I stressed the fact that what we do is consensual and agreed upon. I am the one that brought this lifestyle idea to my husband. I believe though that there are definitely some men that do not deserve a womans gift of submission. DD is not something to be taken lightly. It is not a game. This life if lived right is so rewarding. I would never go back to living a vanilla life again. I know my husband agrees this is like having your cake and eating it too. Of course it is not for everyone and this is just my own opinion and how it has impacted me. I am at my best when I am in a constant submissive state. I will stress also that this only involves submission to my husband. No one else. I trust my husband completely and have no regrets about the choice I make every morning. So many men use their dominance the wrong way. Men and women are very different and men are stronger than us. I personally like to have my strong dominant husband leading my down this journey called life. I love the fact that my husband will put his foot down and set boundaries for me. I also like the fact that I have rules to follow. I want accountability to my husband and expect that he will properly punish me if I need it. I also know that I belong to him and like to the feeling of being owned. DD fulfills so many of my needs. I am so grateful for the life I live.

Reconnecting

We have had a real stressful week. My husband is off on the weekends and Mondays.
That means we try to spend as much time together as a family as we do apart.
I for some reason was feeling out of sorts on Sunday and Monday and not following the
agreed upon rules we have in place. I was being sassy and I will admit my attitude was
horrible. I would get upset at something and stomp around and then be sorry I was acting
that way the next. I think that should have been a good indication that I was stressed to the max
and could have benefited from asking for a stress relief spanking. But then again since I was not myself
I figured that my HOH should be the expert mind reader and pick up on the fact that I need an outlet.
Well he did! After securing me by the back of the hair and leading me to bend over the bed I realized
That I should have took out my journal and wrote out what was bothering me and that I really do
not like punishment spankings when I have upset my husband. As I laid there with my face in the bed
I heard him moving things around in his drawer where the implements were and did not even look up
to see what I was in store for. I received 5 strokes with the loopy john thing on each side and then
I lost count of everything else. By the time he finished and took me in his arms to cuddle me I was
sorry, ashamed and more submissive then I have ever felt. I also could not describe the secure
warm, loved feeling that I felt. I am sitting here carefully might I add, but my attitude is great and
I feel like we reconnected last night and I have been renewed. It was definitely transformational
for me and I know that If I want to make the choice to misbehave in the future I can count on finding
myself in the same situation. I love my husband for stepping up and taking responsibility for correcting
and guiding me. And next time I will just ask for a spanking.

Didn't see it coming

Well last night while watching TV with my DH I apparently had an attitude.
I was in a good mood, a little stressed but still in a good mood.
Usually I can forsee when I am going to be spanked and my behavior changes quickly
so when he told me to close the window my heart dropped into my stomach.
I knew it was not because he was cold LOL. So, I ended up with a hot red bottom.
He took off his belt and made me Assume the position on the bed. Needless to say
I am sitting carefully this morning with a whole new attitude. He also found the loopy john thing we have
and I remember why I need to keep a good attitude. The good thing about it though is I have almost no stress this morning and I am looking forward to car shopping today.

Respect

I recently read The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.
I thought that it was great. One point that really stood out to me was,
we treat a stranger knocking on our door at two a.m. better than our
family who matters the most to us. The CDD website has a poem which I love
to read and softly reminds me that this true. The poem is called I ran into a stranger.
I read it everyday and it keeps my eye on the ball so to speak. I have really made a
conscious effort to treat my loved ones with respect. If I was to die tomorrow I
could be replaced in a job, however I could never be replaced to those who matter
most to me they would feel that loss forever. It is important that while I am here
I treat my family like each day could be my last. I am putting a link to the page
where I found the poem. http://www.christiandomesticdiscipline.com/i_ran_into_a_stranger.html

Happy Friday

So the end of the work week is here.
And its a holiday weekend. My DH told me that we are taking the kids to see Shrek 4
And he is taking me to buy a new cell. Our kids are graduating this week one from Kindergarden and one from 8th grade. Time flies. Tomorrow is my regular spanking day. He is going to try out a new ruler. I do not know how I feel about that yet, but I am sure I will have an opinion come tomorrow night. LOL. I am kind of nervous to tell you the truth. He has become a pretty talented spanker. I was reflecting this morning on my submission and I have came along way. I am proud of myself. I am not perfect but I am doing a pretty good job of surrendering to him. I love the feeling it gives me and the satisfaction of knowing that we share such a special bond. Well I hope everyone has a great HolidayWeekend

Just my Thoughts

I have asked that my husband look at our current situation and refresh
the rules that we have in place. I feel that I have grown as a person and that some
of those rules that we have in place need to be updated. I am currently working on
becoming more organized now that he is gone 14 hours everyday. That leaves me with
more responsibility and I need order. I have never been good at organizing and I am learning
lots of new tips thanks to the internet. I also would like him to be more strict when it comes to
helping me or correcting me I should say. We are still keeping the four D's but there are some more I
think could be of great use to me. Like my time management skills and the way I procrastinate. LOL just to name a few. I like rules and structure and I also like to feel like I am owned. He does a really good job
of owning me so I really can not complain there. I have found myself remembering something that he said to me the night before and smiling or feeling that warm glow that makes me so happy to be a spanked wife.
I feel sorry for the women that have not experienced that feeling. I usually have a smile on my face knowing that we share this wonderful life. I come across women that complain and belittle their husbands and feel sorry that they will probably never feel the deep connection that I feel with my husband. It is to bad.

Stress Relief

I need a spanking and as soon as my DH gets home I will ask.
I want to lose all control of the emotions and stress that I have built up
over the last few weeks. I need to feel my husbands strength and feed of his
energy. I want to be taken over the edge and brought back renewed. I can not wait for him to
get home. I will make sue that everything is done in the house and dinner is ready.
I need a good cry and I am not afraid to admit it LOL. Then I want to crawl into my husbands lap
and just be....

Feeling Better

Well, I have decided that it is time that I start posting again.
Also, time to start assuming the position again.
I am physically feeling eighty percent better and mentally seventy-five.
I am struggling with my feelings about my husband. The miscarriage was something that happened
to both of us, yet I can not express the way that I feel to him. It is not about the words but about my
heart. I can only hope that he will read this and maybe understand how much I love him.
He was the one that I called out for in the ultrasound room when there was no longer a heartbeat.
when they told me that I needed to go wait in the lobby for instructions he led me out the
back exit so I did not have to see anyone.
When nature took its course he gave me space without ever making
me feel like I was alone. He was my rock and he is my everything.
I can not describe this feeling that I have with words. We have not been intimate in weeks
yet he makes me feel desired everyday. And he assures me that I am going to feel like myself
again when I have doubts. He has done all this while starting a new job and commuting 2 hours each way.
He has been more than just my support system heled me out of what could have been the great depression. So, I make his lunch and smile.
I try to have his dinner ready as soon as he gets home.
I try to do extra things however small, to show him how much I appreciate him.
 I know that what he did for me that night made the difference in me "being ok" or going off the deep end. I do not think he really knows how serious I am about that. I know that I am loved and that no matter what happens if I need him he will be there. And if he needs me I would walk to the end of the earth for him. I am content knowing that he knows that. And I thank GOD for making him mine. Sorry that was a long post I know, but I still do not think I said all that I wanted to but I hope I got the general idea out. I am ready to resume DD again and will make sure that I give it 110 percent. I am so lucky.

Bad News

I just wanted to tell all of my new friends and readers that on Tuesday we lost our baby.
I went to the OB and she could not find a heartbeat.
She then sent me over for an ultrasound
and I could tell that it was bad due to the fact
that she turned the screen and then when I asked about the heartbeat she said to talk to my DR.
My doctor got the radiologist report and confirmed it.
I will post again when I am feeling better.

I'm Back

Hi All, I am so sorry that I have not blogged, I have had no time to even get on the computer not to mention appointment after appointment. I have finally a litle time to sit down and blog. I hope everyone is well.
I received my morning maintanece this morning and I have to admit it hurt more than usual. Not to mention I became a sniveling baby afterwards. Good thing my DH was there to reassure me that I was not in trouble and that it was just a taste of what would happen if I I misbeahaved. I love him so much. I am started to think that due to the pregnancy I am a little more tender. Yikes. We are still keeping it low key but it really hurt. Not like the usual ones. We are both so excited about the baby he probably could have just hit me with a newspaper and I would have balled and thats not me at all. I have been doing a lot of kneeling in front of him instead of corner time and I have to say it but a good pair of knee pads are in order LOL. Not to mention that I am being persuaded to stop my coffee consumption down to two cups arrrrgh. But we both want a healthy baby so I will just have to deal with it. I am still very happy even though I am uncaffinated. I will be posted again everyday so stay tuned....Love Rena

Low Impact Spanking

Okay, so this is basically what were doing.
I have not earned a punishment spanking in quite some time.
I have found that I am so happy I have caught myself singing.
I have also found that the little slips in attitude that I have are usually forgiven by my DH.
He chalks it up to the baby. Wink Wink.
All in all I feel really good. I am sure that somewhere down the line I will be thinking different.
For now I am enjoying the togetherness that we share when I am OTK.

Happy Day

My Husband has finally received the offer of employment that he has been waiting for.
We are so excited it is a big promotion.
I am so happy today. It is all finally coming together.
I feel so lucky to have all that I have.
But I also know that even if we were living under a bridge somewhere.
We would still have "US". And our love just the same.

Reminder Spanking

I am so amazed at the positive results we have achieved through DD.
I am feeling rather sentimental this morning probably due to the elevated
hormones I have going on right now. LOL, I feel so loved and safe in my relationship.
We have decided to alternate our schedule to spanking 3 days a week. They are going
to be reminder spankings. I feel the need to lay over my husbands lap, and feel the
raw power that is exchanged between us. I am not sure how safe it is to spank while pregnant
or how hard I should say. My husband treats me like a queen so what is there to get spanked for? Wink!
I know he is having reservations so I would like to put his mind to rest.
Does anyone have any suggestions I might be able to use?? If so please let me know.

A future without spankings is not for me.

I'll Have Another

It has been a very busy weekend for me. I have not posted because my headache that I had the other day led me to finding out that I am pregnant. So we are starting a new chapter in our life. We are still going to be spanking, please everyone keep your fingers crossed that we are having a boy.

Not Feeling Good

Just wanted to tell everyone that I have not been feeling good today so I did not post.
I am finally feeling a little better so I will be back online.
I have had a bad sinus headache.
Luckily since it started before my morning spanking my loving husband put it on hold until tonight.
So yes, I am getting ready to get in the shower and then meet him in the bedroom.
I will keep you posted on the outcome. Talk to you soon...Rena

Interesting Article On Different Types Of Love

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

There are essentially three types of love.

 

Eros, Philia,  and Agape

 

Eros means romantic love in which the word erotic come from.  It's

the  chemical reaction that happens between two people.  It's the spark

that happens to people.  It's the blushing of the face.  It's

infatuation between people.  It's puppy love.

 

It's the most common type of love that we can associate.  When you

see a couple holding hands or kissing and people say, "Yes, they are in

love."  This type of love is called Eros.

 

Most relationships are based on this type of love.

 

The Greeks also has a second definition of love, and that is Philia

in which the word the philanthropy come from.  Philia means brotherly

love.  We all know city of Philadelphia as the city of brotherly love.

Philia does not contain romantic love.  Philia is the love you and I

express to our father, mother, brother, sister, or a friend.  People

say, "I love my brother to death". Well, this type of love is philia love.

 

It does not contain, Eros type of love.

 

The third definition of love is called Agape.  Agape means

unconditional love for someone.  It means loving someone without

expecting love in return.  Parents can relate to this, especially a

mother.  Perhaps this may be a difficult concept in today's selfish

society because this type of love requires sacrifice and selflessness.

 

One common mistake that people make is equating true love with EROS

love only.  I submit to you that TRUE love requires all three types

of LOVE.  Most relationships today are based on one type of love.  If

your relationship does not contain these three types of love, you may

have the recipe for disaster.

 

Trouble looms ahead when the first few years are past, add a kid or

two, and when the going get tough.  When EROS love loses a little bit

of its flavor, most people bail out of relationships.  It's equally

important that individuals apply all three types of love in their

relationships and marriages.

 

EROS love that is key to every relationship, there is the philia love

that's equally important, and of course, agape love that binds all

three.  It's important that we apply all three types of love in

finding true love.  Most marriages and relationships are based on

EROS love only

The End Result

Ladies this is what you can probably expect if you decide to follow the modern version of the Good Wives Guide. I do not recommend it. LOL

Just For Fun

This is the modern version to the original Good Wives Guide from the 50's. I had a good laugh.
 
1. Plan dinner for yourself and family. Even if the food has a "Mc" in front or a "King" behind, it still counts as a dinner you planned. Making reservations is also considered planning as is asking your husband to pick something up on the way home from work.

2. Take a nap if possible, after all, you deserve it. Feeding, cleaning, dressing and running after children all day is hard work. Plus, if you are rested, you are less likely to take off to Vegas like you've threatened to do on more than one stressful occasion. Also to make yourself "fresh-looking", have the hubby watch the kids for you so you can take a nice relaxing bath and maybe have time to shave. He'll love that.

3. Do whatever makes you happy. If you enjoy dancing around the house in your underwear then do it. And do it for yourself not for your spouse because being "gay" for his benefit is just plain gay.

4. If you're lucky enough to have a "play room" then you can only hope that the majority of the toys will remain in there. If not, have the kids clean them up at the end of the day before bedtime. There's no point in putting them away while they are still playing. Randomly throwing toys into said playroom counts as cleaning up, as does piling laundry in the corner of a room. If you don't get the opportunity to clean up clutter, it's a sure fire sign that you had something better to do.

5. As long as there is nothing living or breathing in the inch high dust that covers the TV, cabinets or shelves, it can wait. And if your washer, dryer or dishwasher are running when your husband comes home, well it's a sign that you've obviously been busy that day.

6. Building a fire is fun if you have a fireplace. And if you do, try not to "accidentally" knock your husband into it when he picks a fight even though that might bring you "immense personal satisfaction."

7. Children get dirty. If there is even a spec of mud in the backyard, they will find it. As long as their hands are clean before they eat and as long as they aren't smearing dirt on your new carpet or couch then they're clean enough for the time being. If their loud voices drive you crazy, send them outside where they can drive the neighbors crazy. And to fix any hair issues, make them wear a hat. Also, if they want to jump all over their father the minute he walks in the door, let them. After all, they've most likely been jumping all over you all day.

8. Be happy to see your husband, assuming he's on time and in a good mood. Be even happier if he brought home a paycheck.

9. Give him a hug when he walks in the door, if he doesn't smell of another woman's perfume, give him a kiss too. If you missed him, tell him. If you actually want to know how his day went, ask him. And if you love him, remind him.

10. Make a list of all of the things you need or want to tell your husband when he comes home. In the midst of football, ballet, tuba and soccer practice you'll most likely forget. And this way you can hit every topic over dinner. Giving pop quizzes afterwards always helps to drive your points across, although it might make him mad and then he "might" have a fireplace accident.

11. If you had a stressful day, you retain the right to complain about it. As your husband he has the obligation to listen and vice versa. If he goes out after work and stays out late, you also have the right to be upset. And you retain the right to turn off your cell phone the next time you're out with the girls.

12. If you can make one room tranquil and peaceful then do it. You need somewhere to escape and regroup yourself. This is why men have sheds and garages.

13. If he wants to go out for a few drinks after work then compromise. You should be able to go out one night also, it's only fair.

14. If you've both had a rough day then having drinks prepared is not a bad idea, especially if there is alcohol included.

15. Arranging your husband's pillow is a nice gesture, just try not to "arrange" it over his face. Of course if you're speaking in low, pleasant tones while you're doing it, it could still be considered a nice gesture.

16. If something doesn't seem right to you, ask questions. Just because your husband is a man doesn't mean he can do whatever he wants. Remember, where there is a King of the castle, there is also a Queen......

17. A good wife always knows her place, on top of her throne where she shall be worshiped by all.

What Happens When We Spank

When a spank lands it drives energy into the bottom flesh. The energy
does various things. Some of it escapes as sound (the slap). Some of it
turns to heat, warming the bottom. Some of it softens the tissues and
some of it stimulates the nerves (or dermatones) in the bottom sending
signals to the brain.
All spanking is cumulative. If you spank too slowly all the energy
will have drained away before the next one arrives so the overall
effect will be negligible, not very good for instilling discipline or
getting your partner into a restorative mood. The idea is to time the
frequency of the spanks so that not all the energy has dissipated before
the next one arrives. Get the timing right and the bottom will slowly
heat up and become hot to the touch. The continuous striking of the
flesh will cause it to turn red as more blood circulates through the
tissues and the skin reacts. The regular pattern of nerve stimulations
also sets up a wave that ripples up from the bottom to the brain. With
the right timing and intensity of spanking, these factors act together
causing the body to release adrenalin and endorphins.
Spank too hard, too quickly, and the bottom will go numb (the
nerves switch off) and your spankee will not get the benefit of the
spanks. Afterwards, when feeling returns, they will be unexpectedly
sore. Keep spanking and the bottom will become quite hot and turn an
angry purple or blue. This is the time when bruises or injuries are
likely. There is a lot of blood circulating and the cumulative impacts
can weaken the skin to form bruises. Taking a break every so often
and stroking the bottom allows the cheeks to recover, lets the heat
dissipate, and so prolongs the time before the bottom goes numb. This
is a good idea if the objective is a therapeutic spank. You want to keep
the cheeks alive and sensitive for as long as possible. Even in a
corrective spank, you still want to get the message through to the
brain. Although, having to sit on a cushion for a time afterwards can
be similarly effective!

Happy Easter

I hope everyone has a great Easter.

Yeah, I am a submissive wife.

It never ceases to amaze me the stereotypes submissive women are given. Do the people that think we are meek, passive, boring, did I say meek, powerless or sick, ever stop to think about the truth. I think that every woman has a submissive side, some tend to have a stronger side than others. I was one of the most controlling, domineering women you would ever meet. I, and I, emphasize I, brought DD to my husband. I was tired of the tension and unresolved emotions festering up between us. I struggle everyday with my submission and I have to tell myself that this is my choice. I make that choice because I know what the outcome is. I love my husband and have always had traditional values inside of me. I love the fact that I can say without a doubt that my husband and I will make it through each and every obstacle together for the rest of our lives. I also believe that those people that say christians are switching DD around so that they can live out their kinks missed a few things in the book I read.  If I can remember correctly God did leave us with a handbook on life, he also included a chapter on marriage and our roles as husband and wife. Submission is mentioned a few times and I believe it said something about, to our husbands, I could be wrong. If I am please correct me. I also believe that since DD is consensual that leaves submission on the wives part voluntary. I know that submission is the key ingredient in DD. I know that I can say I want a traditional male led relationship, but if I do not let him lead I will never have one. It is all common sense. Us submissive woman have enough blind faith, trust, and love in our husbands we have decided that we are going to be females and let our men take care of us. You should not knock it, unless you've tried it. Ask any DD wife if she is unhappy, or if she feels abused. We are human and we have bad days too, but we don't wonder where our husbands are or if they are mad at us, trust me WE KNOW. I am not going to get into the issue of stereotypes right now but guess what we don't spend thousands of dollars on marriage counseling and then another couple on alimony. Instead we tend to spend it on more resourceful things like paddles, no.. just kidding. We spend it on our kids or each other.  We might take family vacations and enjoy each others company cause, oh yeah, another thing about DD our kids are secure, happy, well adjusted and loved. Now tell me can you women out there that are controlling, nagging, etc.  picture your 50th anniversaries? That's what I thought..

Holding Still While Being Spanked

I believe that submitting to your punishment is absolutely necessary. However, when I am being spanked with certain implements or on my thighs I find it near impossible to not squirm. My HOH gives me hard swats on my inner and upper thighs if I move out of position. As I type I am sitting sore. I received a punishment spanking this morning for my attitude. I received 15 minutes of hand spanking and another 5 with the wire whip The bite of the whip gets me every time and I started to squirm. This of course got me penalty swats on the thighs. I am constantly told to get back in place and be still. It hurts. But when it is over I feel more connected to my HOH than ever and everything is right with the world.

The Four D's (Beginners Rules)

   


    This is a good starting point when making
     rules.
    This is the set of rules we use in our
     house.
     The Four D's are defined as follows:

• Disobedience - may be outright refusal to comply, or a continual passive procrastination
• Disrespect - may be the tone in which she addresses him, or the words she uses
• Dishonesty - "little white lie" or big whopper, dishonesty erodes the trust between partners
• Dangerous - not following doctor's orders, reckless motoring, repeated careless use of a knife in the kitchen, etc

Guide To Caning

Caning

They Said...You Are Woman

They said... You are Woman ...
Go out and conquer the world

They said - be strong
Don't betray your Sisters
You don't need a man

You are sufficient unto yourself

They said - be strong Don't
betray your Sisters
You don't need a man
You are sufficient unto yourself

They told me 'submissive' is wrong
...and degrading
that I need bow to no man
I lived that truth
Strong,
Independent, Intelligent, Capable,
In Charge, In Control...


Until - a new truth

You told me - you are woman
...Go out and  conquer the world
Then come home and sit at my feet

You said - come to me in strength and I will protect you
and celebrate
your strength

You said - kneel before me give
my your woman's body for my pleasure
and I will raise you from kneeling
...to heights you never imagined

You said - let me into those
locked rooms
...give me access
Trust Me with every part of you
...and I will treasure it all

You said - there are more truths
in this world,
...and revealed them to me
and because of you

...I am forever changed

10 Reasons We Need A Submissive As President

10. A submissive is ready to serve 24/7

9. She is very protective

8.She knows how to negotiate

7. She is not afraid of being told
when she had done something wrong, most of the time she will tell on
herself

6. She is faithful and honest

5. She will try her absolute best

4. She can take an ass whippin', walk away with a
smile, and will not hold a grudge.

3. If she gives a blow job,
she will proudly admit it and admit to swallowing too.

2. She is tolerant of all the many different lifestyles and people within them.




Number 1 Reason that a submissive is needed in the White House.

1.She will have one hell of an Inauguration Ball

Phases To Total Submission

A submissives journey - Phases to submission

Reluctant HOH

Your wives are literally crying out for you to take what they have so lovingly and willingly offered to you; their submission, obedience and the power to make them accountable for their lack of positive contribution to YOUR household.
I would seem to be one of the lucky few, my dear husband relishes his position as the head of our home. He takes the responsibility so seriously that I can practically set my watch by his swiftness and consistency is exercising his authority. And at the end of the day, I sleep next to the man who makes me feel more secure, more grounded and more loved than I ever dared dream.
My heart breaks for the women I know  who struggle with their demons, their self worth and question their value to their husbands. They are loving, patient women who NEED your strong leadership and guidance. Who crave the attention and security derived from being lovingly disciplined by the man they love, respect and trust above all others.
I can't speak for all DD wives, but I feel comfortable assuring you that the majority of us sweat blood trying to understand your struggle with DD.
WE know the responsibility of being the HOH can be overwhelming and daunting. WE know you have so much to juggle as the protector, provider, example and leader in your homes. We understand you are often pulled in opposing directions which can leave you stressed out, tired and unmotivated to assume the role of disciplinarian, much less take on what truly being an HOH encompasses within the scope of our day to day lives together.

We cry, question and lament our own actions and behaviors. We long to improve, correct and/or change that behavior. We TRY (I swear we do) to do it on our own but we CAN'T. We NEED you. Most of us were the ones who asked for DD to be incorporated into our marriages in the first place. We are willingly to submit, the pay-off for us is BIG but it's even bigger for you guys. Our unconditional respect and 24/7 commitment to making YOU happy and contented is what we are offering...please TAKE IT.
And if you can't, or don't want to, please tell us why.
We made a commitment to you when we married you, and you to us. If changes need to be made, make them. Or tell us how to make them. There's no "rule" that says the protocol, the routine or the manner in which you exercise your authority over us and our homes can't be altered, improved on or re-vised.
We know you love us. Don't question that. We know you want a harmonious, loving home that you look forward to coming home to. We know you want respectful, generous wives who revel in YOUR joy and contentment.
We know that you WANT us to feel loved. We know you want us to feel safe. We know that, if you could, you would give us the moon-gift wrapped.
We aren't asking for the moon, guys. What we want is so much easier to give; a strong leader, a committed disciplianarian and the happy, contented husband that is the natural result of that. It's the desire of our hearts. We WILL work for it. We'll do everything in our power to insure you never regret it. But we can't do it alone. WE NEED YOU.
It's not typically a male characteristic to sit down with yourselves and examine your own needs and desires. (You're so busy just managing our lives together). But, I'm begging you. If you are one of our husbands who are reluctant or passive about being the head of your household, if your one of our husbands who struggle with actually handing out discipline to us and with all the emotions and repercussions that encompasses, please think it through. Then TALK to us. Help us help you make our lives, our homes and our marriages the kind other people envy.
We want the same thing you do. We know you have the harder job in helping us get there and we so appreciate your desire to do it. We ARE sorry when we behave in a way that makes it appear pointlessly time-consuming. We WILL follow your example of consistency.
Hold us accountable. Insist that WE help you hold us accountable. I would even venture to say, there aren't many of us here who shouldn't be taken in hand by you at least once a week. You WILL see results if you are consistent in exercising your authority and thorough is making us accountable. Please believe me when I say, we would do it on own if we could. YOUR hand, YOUR authority, YOUR expectations is what we entered into this determined to submit to.
Talk to us, write it down , make a list or at least tell us you are aware of your reluctance and inconsistency and WANT to give us what you know we need and deserve but need to figure out how to do that. We'll wait, we're really patient. We just aren't mind-readers.

Your Loving Hand

Oh how I love your loving hand
As it tenderly strokes my hair
It holds me so accountable
But is reasonable and fair
It guides me and protects me
With such tenderness and care
It gently holds me in position
For discipline to bare
With firmness from your loving hand
The redness I do wear
As I thank you for correction
And promise not to dare
Overstep the mark again
But be submissive sweet and rare
You smile at me knowingly
In the knowledge we both share
That soon I'll be across your knee
With pain once more to bare.

Funny...How To Spank A Brat

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  First step... catch her.
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  Second step...hold on to her.
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  Third step... while holding on to her. Try to get to your cuffs/rope/ whatever you can get your hands on.
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  Fourth step... carry her to the bed
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  Fifth step... stop and try to catch your breath. (while still trying to hold on to her)
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  Sixth step... catch her again
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  Seventh step... threaten her with bodily harm if she doesn't stand still
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  Eighth step... catch her again.
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  Ninth step... threaten to gag her if she doesn't stop laughing.
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  Tenth step... drag her back to the bed
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  Eleventh step...secure her wiggling body
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  Twelfth step... choose your paddle/ crop/ flogger/ whatever is handy.
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  Thirteenth step...gag her to stop the giggling.
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  Fourteenth step...repeatedly smack her ass till she quits shaking with laughter.
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  Fifteenth step...continue spanking till she starts to moan.
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  Sixteenth step... give up.  No matter what you do, you know she's enjoying the hell out of it.  This isn't punishment, it's her way of making you please her.