I'm Back

Hi All, I am so sorry that I have not blogged, I have had no time to even get on the computer not to mention appointment after appointment. I have finally a litle time to sit down and blog. I hope everyone is well.
I received my morning maintanece this morning and I have to admit it hurt more than usual. Not to mention I became a sniveling baby afterwards. Good thing my DH was there to reassure me that I was not in trouble and that it was just a taste of what would happen if I I misbeahaved. I love him so much. I am started to think that due to the pregnancy I am a little more tender. Yikes. We are still keeping it low key but it really hurt. Not like the usual ones. We are both so excited about the baby he probably could have just hit me with a newspaper and I would have balled and thats not me at all. I have been doing a lot of kneeling in front of him instead of corner time and I have to say it but a good pair of knee pads are in order LOL. Not to mention that I am being persuaded to stop my coffee consumption down to two cups arrrrgh. But we both want a healthy baby so I will just have to deal with it. I am still very happy even though I am uncaffinated. I will be posted again everyday so stay tuned....Love Rena

Low Impact Spanking

Okay, so this is basically what were doing.
I have not earned a punishment spanking in quite some time.
I have found that I am so happy I have caught myself singing.
I have also found that the little slips in attitude that I have are usually forgiven by my DH.
He chalks it up to the baby. Wink Wink.
All in all I feel really good. I am sure that somewhere down the line I will be thinking different.
For now I am enjoying the togetherness that we share when I am OTK.

Happy Day

My Husband has finally received the offer of employment that he has been waiting for.
We are so excited it is a big promotion.
I am so happy today. It is all finally coming together.
I feel so lucky to have all that I have.
But I also know that even if we were living under a bridge somewhere.
We would still have "US". And our love just the same.

Reminder Spanking

I am so amazed at the positive results we have achieved through DD.
I am feeling rather sentimental this morning probably due to the elevated
hormones I have going on right now. LOL, I feel so loved and safe in my relationship.
We have decided to alternate our schedule to spanking 3 days a week. They are going
to be reminder spankings. I feel the need to lay over my husbands lap, and feel the
raw power that is exchanged between us. I am not sure how safe it is to spank while pregnant
or how hard I should say. My husband treats me like a queen so what is there to get spanked for? Wink!
I know he is having reservations so I would like to put his mind to rest.
Does anyone have any suggestions I might be able to use?? If so please let me know.

A future without spankings is not for me.

I'll Have Another

It has been a very busy weekend for me. I have not posted because my headache that I had the other day led me to finding out that I am pregnant. So we are starting a new chapter in our life. We are still going to be spanking, please everyone keep your fingers crossed that we are having a boy.

Not Feeling Good

Just wanted to tell everyone that I have not been feeling good today so I did not post.
I am finally feeling a little better so I will be back online.
I have had a bad sinus headache.
Luckily since it started before my morning spanking my loving husband put it on hold until tonight.
So yes, I am getting ready to get in the shower and then meet him in the bedroom.
I will keep you posted on the outcome. Talk to you soon...Rena

Interesting Article On Different Types Of Love

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

There are essentially three types of love.

 

Eros, Philia,  and Agape

 

Eros means romantic love in which the word erotic come from.  It's

the  chemical reaction that happens between two people.  It's the spark

that happens to people.  It's the blushing of the face.  It's

infatuation between people.  It's puppy love.

 

It's the most common type of love that we can associate.  When you

see a couple holding hands or kissing and people say, "Yes, they are in

love."  This type of love is called Eros.

 

Most relationships are based on this type of love.

 

The Greeks also has a second definition of love, and that is Philia

in which the word the philanthropy come from.  Philia means brotherly

love.  We all know city of Philadelphia as the city of brotherly love.

Philia does not contain romantic love.  Philia is the love you and I

express to our father, mother, brother, sister, or a friend.  People

say, "I love my brother to death". Well, this type of love is philia love.

 

It does not contain, Eros type of love.

 

The third definition of love is called Agape.  Agape means

unconditional love for someone.  It means loving someone without

expecting love in return.  Parents can relate to this, especially a

mother.  Perhaps this may be a difficult concept in today's selfish

society because this type of love requires sacrifice and selflessness.

 

One common mistake that people make is equating true love with EROS

love only.  I submit to you that TRUE love requires all three types

of LOVE.  Most relationships today are based on one type of love.  If

your relationship does not contain these three types of love, you may

have the recipe for disaster.

 

Trouble looms ahead when the first few years are past, add a kid or

two, and when the going get tough.  When EROS love loses a little bit

of its flavor, most people bail out of relationships.  It's equally

important that individuals apply all three types of love in their

relationships and marriages.

 

EROS love that is key to every relationship, there is the philia love

that's equally important, and of course, agape love that binds all

three.  It's important that we apply all three types of love in

finding true love.  Most marriages and relationships are based on

EROS love only

The End Result

Ladies this is what you can probably expect if you decide to follow the modern version of the Good Wives Guide. I do not recommend it. LOL

Just For Fun

This is the modern version to the original Good Wives Guide from the 50's. I had a good laugh.
 
1. Plan dinner for yourself and family. Even if the food has a "Mc" in front or a "King" behind, it still counts as a dinner you planned. Making reservations is also considered planning as is asking your husband to pick something up on the way home from work.

2. Take a nap if possible, after all, you deserve it. Feeding, cleaning, dressing and running after children all day is hard work. Plus, if you are rested, you are less likely to take off to Vegas like you've threatened to do on more than one stressful occasion. Also to make yourself "fresh-looking", have the hubby watch the kids for you so you can take a nice relaxing bath and maybe have time to shave. He'll love that.

3. Do whatever makes you happy. If you enjoy dancing around the house in your underwear then do it. And do it for yourself not for your spouse because being "gay" for his benefit is just plain gay.

4. If you're lucky enough to have a "play room" then you can only hope that the majority of the toys will remain in there. If not, have the kids clean them up at the end of the day before bedtime. There's no point in putting them away while they are still playing. Randomly throwing toys into said playroom counts as cleaning up, as does piling laundry in the corner of a room. If you don't get the opportunity to clean up clutter, it's a sure fire sign that you had something better to do.

5. As long as there is nothing living or breathing in the inch high dust that covers the TV, cabinets or shelves, it can wait. And if your washer, dryer or dishwasher are running when your husband comes home, well it's a sign that you've obviously been busy that day.

6. Building a fire is fun if you have a fireplace. And if you do, try not to "accidentally" knock your husband into it when he picks a fight even though that might bring you "immense personal satisfaction."

7. Children get dirty. If there is even a spec of mud in the backyard, they will find it. As long as their hands are clean before they eat and as long as they aren't smearing dirt on your new carpet or couch then they're clean enough for the time being. If their loud voices drive you crazy, send them outside where they can drive the neighbors crazy. And to fix any hair issues, make them wear a hat. Also, if they want to jump all over their father the minute he walks in the door, let them. After all, they've most likely been jumping all over you all day.

8. Be happy to see your husband, assuming he's on time and in a good mood. Be even happier if he brought home a paycheck.

9. Give him a hug when he walks in the door, if he doesn't smell of another woman's perfume, give him a kiss too. If you missed him, tell him. If you actually want to know how his day went, ask him. And if you love him, remind him.

10. Make a list of all of the things you need or want to tell your husband when he comes home. In the midst of football, ballet, tuba and soccer practice you'll most likely forget. And this way you can hit every topic over dinner. Giving pop quizzes afterwards always helps to drive your points across, although it might make him mad and then he "might" have a fireplace accident.

11. If you had a stressful day, you retain the right to complain about it. As your husband he has the obligation to listen and vice versa. If he goes out after work and stays out late, you also have the right to be upset. And you retain the right to turn off your cell phone the next time you're out with the girls.

12. If you can make one room tranquil and peaceful then do it. You need somewhere to escape and regroup yourself. This is why men have sheds and garages.

13. If he wants to go out for a few drinks after work then compromise. You should be able to go out one night also, it's only fair.

14. If you've both had a rough day then having drinks prepared is not a bad idea, especially if there is alcohol included.

15. Arranging your husband's pillow is a nice gesture, just try not to "arrange" it over his face. Of course if you're speaking in low, pleasant tones while you're doing it, it could still be considered a nice gesture.

16. If something doesn't seem right to you, ask questions. Just because your husband is a man doesn't mean he can do whatever he wants. Remember, where there is a King of the castle, there is also a Queen......

17. A good wife always knows her place, on top of her throne where she shall be worshiped by all.

What Happens When We Spank

When a spank lands it drives energy into the bottom flesh. The energy
does various things. Some of it escapes as sound (the slap). Some of it
turns to heat, warming the bottom. Some of it softens the tissues and
some of it stimulates the nerves (or dermatones) in the bottom sending
signals to the brain.
All spanking is cumulative. If you spank too slowly all the energy
will have drained away before the next one arrives so the overall
effect will be negligible, not very good for instilling discipline or
getting your partner into a restorative mood. The idea is to time the
frequency of the spanks so that not all the energy has dissipated before
the next one arrives. Get the timing right and the bottom will slowly
heat up and become hot to the touch. The continuous striking of the
flesh will cause it to turn red as more blood circulates through the
tissues and the skin reacts. The regular pattern of nerve stimulations
also sets up a wave that ripples up from the bottom to the brain. With
the right timing and intensity of spanking, these factors act together
causing the body to release adrenalin and endorphins.
Spank too hard, too quickly, and the bottom will go numb (the
nerves switch off) and your spankee will not get the benefit of the
spanks. Afterwards, when feeling returns, they will be unexpectedly
sore. Keep spanking and the bottom will become quite hot and turn an
angry purple or blue. This is the time when bruises or injuries are
likely. There is a lot of blood circulating and the cumulative impacts
can weaken the skin to form bruises. Taking a break every so often
and stroking the bottom allows the cheeks to recover, lets the heat
dissipate, and so prolongs the time before the bottom goes numb. This
is a good idea if the objective is a therapeutic spank. You want to keep
the cheeks alive and sensitive for as long as possible. Even in a
corrective spank, you still want to get the message through to the
brain. Although, having to sit on a cushion for a time afterwards can
be similarly effective!

Happy Easter

I hope everyone has a great Easter.

Yeah, I am a submissive wife.

It never ceases to amaze me the stereotypes submissive women are given. Do the people that think we are meek, passive, boring, did I say meek, powerless or sick, ever stop to think about the truth. I think that every woman has a submissive side, some tend to have a stronger side than others. I was one of the most controlling, domineering women you would ever meet. I, and I, emphasize I, brought DD to my husband. I was tired of the tension and unresolved emotions festering up between us. I struggle everyday with my submission and I have to tell myself that this is my choice. I make that choice because I know what the outcome is. I love my husband and have always had traditional values inside of me. I love the fact that I can say without a doubt that my husband and I will make it through each and every obstacle together for the rest of our lives. I also believe that those people that say christians are switching DD around so that they can live out their kinks missed a few things in the book I read.  If I can remember correctly God did leave us with a handbook on life, he also included a chapter on marriage and our roles as husband and wife. Submission is mentioned a few times and I believe it said something about, to our husbands, I could be wrong. If I am please correct me. I also believe that since DD is consensual that leaves submission on the wives part voluntary. I know that submission is the key ingredient in DD. I know that I can say I want a traditional male led relationship, but if I do not let him lead I will never have one. It is all common sense. Us submissive woman have enough blind faith, trust, and love in our husbands we have decided that we are going to be females and let our men take care of us. You should not knock it, unless you've tried it. Ask any DD wife if she is unhappy, or if she feels abused. We are human and we have bad days too, but we don't wonder where our husbands are or if they are mad at us, trust me WE KNOW. I am not going to get into the issue of stereotypes right now but guess what we don't spend thousands of dollars on marriage counseling and then another couple on alimony. Instead we tend to spend it on more resourceful things like paddles, no.. just kidding. We spend it on our kids or each other.  We might take family vacations and enjoy each others company cause, oh yeah, another thing about DD our kids are secure, happy, well adjusted and loved. Now tell me can you women out there that are controlling, nagging, etc.  picture your 50th anniversaries? That's what I thought..