Reluctant HOH

Your wives are literally crying out for you to take what they have so lovingly and willingly offered to you; their submission, obedience and the power to make them accountable for their lack of positive contribution to YOUR household.
I would seem to be one of the lucky few, my dear husband relishes his position as the head of our home. He takes the responsibility so seriously that I can practically set my watch by his swiftness and consistency is exercising his authority. And at the end of the day, I sleep next to the man who makes me feel more secure, more grounded and more loved than I ever dared dream.
My heart breaks for the women I know  who struggle with their demons, their self worth and question their value to their husbands. They are loving, patient women who NEED your strong leadership and guidance. Who crave the attention and security derived from being lovingly disciplined by the man they love, respect and trust above all others.
I can't speak for all DD wives, but I feel comfortable assuring you that the majority of us sweat blood trying to understand your struggle with DD.
WE know the responsibility of being the HOH can be overwhelming and daunting. WE know you have so much to juggle as the protector, provider, example and leader in your homes. We understand you are often pulled in opposing directions which can leave you stressed out, tired and unmotivated to assume the role of disciplinarian, much less take on what truly being an HOH encompasses within the scope of our day to day lives together.

We cry, question and lament our own actions and behaviors. We long to improve, correct and/or change that behavior. We TRY (I swear we do) to do it on our own but we CAN'T. We NEED you. Most of us were the ones who asked for DD to be incorporated into our marriages in the first place. We are willingly to submit, the pay-off for us is BIG but it's even bigger for you guys. Our unconditional respect and 24/7 commitment to making YOU happy and contented is what we are offering...please TAKE IT.
And if you can't, or don't want to, please tell us why.
We made a commitment to you when we married you, and you to us. If changes need to be made, make them. Or tell us how to make them. There's no "rule" that says the protocol, the routine or the manner in which you exercise your authority over us and our homes can't be altered, improved on or re-vised.
We know you love us. Don't question that. We know you want a harmonious, loving home that you look forward to coming home to. We know you want respectful, generous wives who revel in YOUR joy and contentment.
We know that you WANT us to feel loved. We know you want us to feel safe. We know that, if you could, you would give us the moon-gift wrapped.
We aren't asking for the moon, guys. What we want is so much easier to give; a strong leader, a committed disciplianarian and the happy, contented husband that is the natural result of that. It's the desire of our hearts. We WILL work for it. We'll do everything in our power to insure you never regret it. But we can't do it alone. WE NEED YOU.
It's not typically a male characteristic to sit down with yourselves and examine your own needs and desires. (You're so busy just managing our lives together). But, I'm begging you. If you are one of our husbands who are reluctant or passive about being the head of your household, if your one of our husbands who struggle with actually handing out discipline to us and with all the emotions and repercussions that encompasses, please think it through. Then TALK to us. Help us help you make our lives, our homes and our marriages the kind other people envy.
We want the same thing you do. We know you have the harder job in helping us get there and we so appreciate your desire to do it. We ARE sorry when we behave in a way that makes it appear pointlessly time-consuming. We WILL follow your example of consistency.
Hold us accountable. Insist that WE help you hold us accountable. I would even venture to say, there aren't many of us here who shouldn't be taken in hand by you at least once a week. You WILL see results if you are consistent in exercising your authority and thorough is making us accountable. Please believe me when I say, we would do it on own if we could. YOUR hand, YOUR authority, YOUR expectations is what we entered into this determined to submit to.
Talk to us, write it down , make a list or at least tell us you are aware of your reluctance and inconsistency and WANT to give us what you know we need and deserve but need to figure out how to do that. We'll wait, we're really patient. We just aren't mind-readers.